A Message for Girls...
This is a message for all girls. Predominately for girls 13 – 30 , but also any age that applies.
Hello Girls,
This is a message to you, a girl, from a 23 year old single guy. I am not writing this message to try to tell you what to do, but rather to bring something to your attention about us guys. I am going to tell you something that you may already know... or it may be a surprise to you. I'm going to talk openly about your bodies and I pray that you will understand my intentions and know that I am not trying to be rude or coarse. Please hear my heart in this message and don't be upset with my words... my goal is two-fold, I am trying to help girls, and guys. You'll understand more after you've read this message.
I've been a member of the popular social networking site MySpace and also the less popular 'meeting' site, Hot or Not. While browsing around on these sites, I've noticed something that I (now) consider quite strange. What is it that I have seen that has been so strange? Cleavage... and lots of it! Many girls like to show off their bodies by showing their breasts and cleavage in their pictures. I have found it interesting that on both of these sites, girls are allowed to choose their 'primary' picture, that is the picture that they want guys (and other girls) to see first. This is the picture that they (possibly) feel best represents them. Very often, the primary picture of theirs will be of their breasts ... sure, the picture might include their smiling face, but guys wont see that first. Girls, is that really how you want us to see you? What I mean to say is this... is that the order you want us to look at you? First your body, then your face... and then... much later - your personality?
Now this message isn't to guys... so I wont talk about how we, as guys, need to try our best to not do that... but rather, I am asking you girls (for your own good and ours) to help us. Do you think that a prostitue is a respectable occupation for girls? Of course not! A prostitute (whore, slut, hooker, whatever you call it) is a disgraceful thing! I hope you agree. Think about how they dress. Usually in a very "sexy" way in order to cause guys to look at them lustfully, and hopefully "buy". Do you want to be likened to a prostitue? I hope not... a wise phrase to remember is this "If you're not in business, don't advertise!" That is to say, if you don't want guys looking at you in a sexy way, help us out by not dressing so sexy.
Recently I was out with a very nice girl and the issue of tattoos came up. She revealed to me that she had a "lower back" tattoo. I asked her why she got it there. I'm not sure that I beleive her answer, but maybe it's true, and maybe you have the same answer as she did. She said that she got it because she thought that it "was a cute place [for a tattoo]." Is that your reason? Or did you get one there (or are considering getting one there) because you KNOW that guys think it's sexy? Did you know that? Guys think that's incredibly sexy (all that I've talked to anyways...) I've heard some guys define that as a "target" (which for the purpose of this e-mail I wont define). Is that how you want to be thought of?
Isn't it good that Guys would look at you this way? (you might be thinking)
No. It isn't... why not? You may be asking. Well, speaking about good... maybe this topic will make more sense if we discuss something else for just a few moments. The question of Good depends on the standard that you use. If you're a prostitue, then isn't it good that guys look at you with lust. Well Yes and No... it is "good" for business, and "bad" for everything else. Girl who is reading this page... you might look "good" but do you consider yourself to be a "Good Person?" What about "GOOD" according to a higher standard. A standard like the 10 Commandments? Take a few moments to look at them and answer them in your head (or out loud).
Here they are: 10, You shall not Covet - Have you ever coveted? Wanted something of someone else? 9 You shall not lie - Have you ever told a lie? (telling just one lie, makes you a liar by definition). 8 Have you ever stolen anything? (Be honest. If you have that makes you a thief). 7. You shall not comitt adultery - Not married? Did you know that Jesus said that "whoever looks at a woman to lust after her, has comitted adultery in his heart already" (see Matthew 5:27). That means that if you have looked with Lust you've comitted adultery according to God's standards. What about if you cause a guy to look at you with lust (or at least HELP him) - do you think that is right? 6. You shall not murder - did you know that Jesus said whoever hates others or calls someone a "fool" is in danger of judgement. 5. Honor your Father and Mother - if you are dressing in a sexy way, flashing your cleavage all around the internet (and real life) do you think that is honorable to your parents? i'm not asking if they know about it or care, I'm asking if it's "honorable"... if you're not sure, think about your 16 year old daughter dressing that way - if it'd be fine, consider the rest of your life - is that honorable to them? What about the 3rd commandment - Thou shall not mis-use the name of the Lord their God - have you ever misused God's name? Do you replace swear words with the name of God or Jesus? The bible says God will not hold them guiltless who takes His name in vein. Let's stop there for a moment.
How are you doing? By the way (I am guilty too... remember what I said, I'm not trying to point fingers here, just share my heart). So how did you do? If you've broken just one of His laws, the bible tells us you're guilty of breaking them all. Imagine God's Law like a chain that you're hanging on to get into heaven. If you're perfect, then God will pul you right up, the problem is that if you break just one law, that's like breaking a link in the chain - it doesn't matter how many others you haven't broken, you'll surely fall. Did you know that the Bible says "it's appointed once for us to die, and then face judgement" how will you do? You might say "that's up to God" and you're right, but he has given us a preview of what we can expect. Do you think you'd be innocent or guilty? If you're honest, the answer is guilty. If you're guilty do you think that God would let you into heaven or send you to hell. If you're honest again (although it may be hard) the answer is Hell.
I don't want that, and I'm pretty sure you don't want that. But the good news is, that God doesn't want that either. If you think God would just let you in because He's a good God then you'll be shocked. Because of God's goodness he must punish Sin (Sin by the way, is breaking God's Law). So if he gives you what you deserve, you'll (and I'll) end up in Hell. But do you know what God did so that you wouldn't have to go to hell? You probably do... but maybe it's never made sense to you before. You've heard that "God so loved the world, that He gave His only Begotten son..." You may have heard it said before that Jesus Christ died for your sins... but maybe, kike paul who said "I had not known sin, but by the Law" (see Romans 7:7), you had not fully understood your sins - so that you would fully understand what Jesus' death meant. The bible says that God commanded his love towards the world, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
Do you know what you must do to "take part" in that gift of salvation. The bible also makes that clear. You must repent and Believe in Jesus. Not just believe, because the Devil believes and trembles, but believe that He alone is what is allowing you to go to heaven when you die. You broke the chain, there is no hope for only you (or I) to get into heaven without Jesus. He is the way, the truth, and the life - and as He said - no one comes to the Father, but through him. So please, Repent (which means confess and forsake your sins - including sexy outfits) and put your Faith (trust, belief, hope) in the one that died to save you. You've heard it said "what if you died tonight?" but seriously think about it.... what if you did? I don't want you to go to hell, and I hope you don't either.
IF you think you wont becuse you don't beleive in God... trying standing on a freeway during rush-hour and not believing in Cars. The God I'm talking about is the God who created this world, the God of Truth. Don't resist it any longer, I beg you, humble yourself and repent and turst in Jesus alone for your salvation.
"What does all this have to do with the way I dress?" I belive it's got everything to do with it. If the way you dress is a spider web, then sin is the spider. If we want to get rid of the web, the best approach would be to get rid of the spider. The bible says that the things of God are foolishness to those that are perishing - so once you repent , you'll start to understand the issue of dress (and lust) more clearly. I pray that you'll think long (but fast) and hard about this, as it (Salvation, not the way you dress) is the most important choice you'll make in this lifetime.
God's Will Be Done. In Jesus' Name I pray, Amen.
~ brandt
Hello Girls,
This is a message to you, a girl, from a 23 year old single guy. I am not writing this message to try to tell you what to do, but rather to bring something to your attention about us guys. I am going to tell you something that you may already know... or it may be a surprise to you. I'm going to talk openly about your bodies and I pray that you will understand my intentions and know that I am not trying to be rude or coarse. Please hear my heart in this message and don't be upset with my words... my goal is two-fold, I am trying to help girls, and guys. You'll understand more after you've read this message.
I've been a member of the popular social networking site MySpace and also the less popular 'meeting' site, Hot or Not. While browsing around on these sites, I've noticed something that I (now) consider quite strange. What is it that I have seen that has been so strange? Cleavage... and lots of it! Many girls like to show off their bodies by showing their breasts and cleavage in their pictures. I have found it interesting that on both of these sites, girls are allowed to choose their 'primary' picture, that is the picture that they want guys (and other girls) to see first. This is the picture that they (possibly) feel best represents them. Very often, the primary picture of theirs will be of their breasts ... sure, the picture might include their smiling face, but guys wont see that first. Girls, is that really how you want us to see you? What I mean to say is this... is that the order you want us to look at you? First your body, then your face... and then... much later - your personality?
Now this message isn't to guys... so I wont talk about how we, as guys, need to try our best to not do that... but rather, I am asking you girls (for your own good and ours) to help us. Do you think that a prostitue is a respectable occupation for girls? Of course not! A prostitute (whore, slut, hooker, whatever you call it) is a disgraceful thing! I hope you agree. Think about how they dress. Usually in a very "sexy" way in order to cause guys to look at them lustfully, and hopefully "buy". Do you want to be likened to a prostitue? I hope not... a wise phrase to remember is this "If you're not in business, don't advertise!" That is to say, if you don't want guys looking at you in a sexy way, help us out by not dressing so sexy.
Recently I was out with a very nice girl and the issue of tattoos came up. She revealed to me that she had a "lower back" tattoo. I asked her why she got it there. I'm not sure that I beleive her answer, but maybe it's true, and maybe you have the same answer as she did. She said that she got it because she thought that it "was a cute place [for a tattoo]." Is that your reason? Or did you get one there (or are considering getting one there) because you KNOW that guys think it's sexy? Did you know that? Guys think that's incredibly sexy (all that I've talked to anyways...) I've heard some guys define that as a "target" (which for the purpose of this e-mail I wont define). Is that how you want to be thought of?
Isn't it good that Guys would look at you this way? (you might be thinking)
No. It isn't... why not? You may be asking. Well, speaking about good... maybe this topic will make more sense if we discuss something else for just a few moments. The question of Good depends on the standard that you use. If you're a prostitue, then isn't it good that guys look at you with lust. Well Yes and No... it is "good" for business, and "bad" for everything else. Girl who is reading this page... you might look "good" but do you consider yourself to be a "Good Person?" What about "GOOD" according to a higher standard. A standard like the 10 Commandments? Take a few moments to look at them and answer them in your head (or out loud).
Here they are: 10, You shall not Covet - Have you ever coveted? Wanted something of someone else? 9 You shall not lie - Have you ever told a lie? (telling just one lie, makes you a liar by definition). 8 Have you ever stolen anything? (Be honest. If you have that makes you a thief). 7. You shall not comitt adultery - Not married? Did you know that Jesus said that "whoever looks at a woman to lust after her, has comitted adultery in his heart already" (see Matthew 5:27). That means that if you have looked with Lust you've comitted adultery according to God's standards. What about if you cause a guy to look at you with lust (or at least HELP him) - do you think that is right? 6. You shall not murder - did you know that Jesus said whoever hates others or calls someone a "fool" is in danger of judgement. 5. Honor your Father and Mother - if you are dressing in a sexy way, flashing your cleavage all around the internet (and real life) do you think that is honorable to your parents? i'm not asking if they know about it or care, I'm asking if it's "honorable"... if you're not sure, think about your 16 year old daughter dressing that way - if it'd be fine, consider the rest of your life - is that honorable to them? What about the 3rd commandment - Thou shall not mis-use the name of the Lord their God - have you ever misused God's name? Do you replace swear words with the name of God or Jesus? The bible says God will not hold them guiltless who takes His name in vein. Let's stop there for a moment.
How are you doing? By the way (I am guilty too... remember what I said, I'm not trying to point fingers here, just share my heart). So how did you do? If you've broken just one of His laws, the bible tells us you're guilty of breaking them all. Imagine God's Law like a chain that you're hanging on to get into heaven. If you're perfect, then God will pul you right up, the problem is that if you break just one law, that's like breaking a link in the chain - it doesn't matter how many others you haven't broken, you'll surely fall. Did you know that the Bible says "it's appointed once for us to die, and then face judgement" how will you do? You might say "that's up to God" and you're right, but he has given us a preview of what we can expect. Do you think you'd be innocent or guilty? If you're honest, the answer is guilty. If you're guilty do you think that God would let you into heaven or send you to hell. If you're honest again (although it may be hard) the answer is Hell.
I don't want that, and I'm pretty sure you don't want that. But the good news is, that God doesn't want that either. If you think God would just let you in because He's a good God then you'll be shocked. Because of God's goodness he must punish Sin (Sin by the way, is breaking God's Law). So if he gives you what you deserve, you'll (and I'll) end up in Hell. But do you know what God did so that you wouldn't have to go to hell? You probably do... but maybe it's never made sense to you before. You've heard that "God so loved the world, that He gave His only Begotten son..." You may have heard it said before that Jesus Christ died for your sins... but maybe, kike paul who said "I had not known sin, but by the Law" (see Romans 7:7), you had not fully understood your sins - so that you would fully understand what Jesus' death meant. The bible says that God commanded his love towards the world, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
Do you know what you must do to "take part" in that gift of salvation. The bible also makes that clear. You must repent and Believe in Jesus. Not just believe, because the Devil believes and trembles, but believe that He alone is what is allowing you to go to heaven when you die. You broke the chain, there is no hope for only you (or I) to get into heaven without Jesus. He is the way, the truth, and the life - and as He said - no one comes to the Father, but through him. So please, Repent (which means confess and forsake your sins - including sexy outfits) and put your Faith (trust, belief, hope) in the one that died to save you. You've heard it said "what if you died tonight?" but seriously think about it.... what if you did? I don't want you to go to hell, and I hope you don't either.
IF you think you wont becuse you don't beleive in God... trying standing on a freeway during rush-hour and not believing in Cars. The God I'm talking about is the God who created this world, the God of Truth. Don't resist it any longer, I beg you, humble yourself and repent and turst in Jesus alone for your salvation.
"What does all this have to do with the way I dress?" I belive it's got everything to do with it. If the way you dress is a spider web, then sin is the spider. If we want to get rid of the web, the best approach would be to get rid of the spider. The bible says that the things of God are foolishness to those that are perishing - so once you repent , you'll start to understand the issue of dress (and lust) more clearly. I pray that you'll think long (but fast) and hard about this, as it (Salvation, not the way you dress) is the most important choice you'll make in this lifetime.
God's Will Be Done. In Jesus' Name I pray, Amen.
~ brandt
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